When People Are Big And God Is Small – Chapter Four

“…those who have been threatened, attacked, or shamed by others tend to be more vulnerable to the fear of man, and they have to be especially vigilant.”

Welcome back!

For those joining this week, you can peruse our previous chapter discussions here:


Chapter One.

Chapter Two.

Chapter Three.


Father, thank you for this time together as we engage our book study and pour its contents through the sieve of Your Word.

“Let me learn by paradox that the way down is the way up, that to be low is to be high, that the broken heart is the healed heart, that the contrite spirit is the rejoicing spirit, that the repenting soul is the victorious soul, that to have nothing is to possess all, that to bear the cross is to wear the crown, that to give is to receive, that the valley is the place of vision.” ~ The Valley of Vision

May we be edified and You be glorified.

In Jesus’ most holy name we ask these things.


CHAPTER FOUR: People Will Physically Hurt Me

“Sexual and physical violence are clear examples of the way destructive people in our pasts can make us more prone to fearing other people.”


“Being afraid is not wrong in itself. As creatures living in a sinful world we should be afraid at times. The problem is when fear forgets God.”

DISCUSSION {Please consider these questions for reflection on Chapter Four.} *


“Only persistent meditation on the cross of Christ is sufficient to allay this fear. Then we will know that there is no person capable of thwarting God’s good purposes in our life.”

1. What do people who have been victimized have to be careful of?

 Living as though God is very small in comparison to evil people.

2. How did Abraham deal with his fear of the Egyptians?

 His willingness to boldly trust God though he was being severely tested.

3. What are we to do when we are prone to fearing people?

 Fear God more so.

4. The fear of man is …?

 A snare. {Proverbs 29:25}

5. How does fear become so big that we forget God?

 When it becomes idolatrous and overtakes us.

6. What is sinful thinking regarding our past?

 When we forget God and seek our safety and security from people.

7. What kind of counsel must be given to those who have been sinned against?

 Filled with compassion and anger over the injustices suffered and address any sin, theirs or others, so that they may know true freedom from guilt, the joy of forgiveness and the greatness of God’s love.


Choose any or all of these ideas to work on. It may be beneficial to ask someone to help you achieve your task.

🖋️ Scriptures to memorize:

Matthew 10:28

🖋️ Meditate on Matthew 10:28. Does it provide a sense of liberation? Do you notice how the power of God and the mention of Hell cuts through the painful introspection associated with the fear of others?


We will plan to meet here next Saturday, February 1st, 2020. In the meantime, please read Chapter 5: The World Wants Me To Fear People.


We will discuss the following questions next week upon reflection of Chapter 5: The World Wants Me To Fear People.*

1. In what two ways does the world encourage the fear of man?
2. What assumptions have increased depression and/or rage against God Himself?
3. How does the culture come to know truth?
4. How has orthodox Christianity talked about suffering?
5. Throughout church history, how have emotions and feelings been viewed?
6. What is the problem with modern spirituality?
7. Is every need viewed as a ‘legitimate need’?


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“The road leading to the fear of man may be expressed in terms of favoritism, wanting others to think well of you, fearing exposure by them, or being overwhelmed by their perceived physical power. When these fears are not combated with the fear of the Lord, the consequences can be devastating. But when God is given His rightful place in our lives, old bonds can be shattered.”

*Discussion questions constructed from online companion.